eight traits of a confident woman
we all struggle with grasping and holding on to this concept at one point or another, regardless of whether your parents helped to instill it in you or not. i think confidence is something that stems from self-identification and coming to terms with who you are. its a thing that grows stronger and better with time - which is why the confused 20-something admires the carefree 40-something that much.
for example, while i do have the utmost confidence in my abilities & talents, i struggle to maintain that level of assurance for myself over all. so my self-esteem becomes a measure of what i can positively accomplish verses something that is an unbiased and all-encompassing acceptance of who i am. and, thus, every setback/rejection becomes that much more overwhelming and burdensome. every thing just slices that much deeper.
i'm working on fixing that. learning to be more patient and kind with myself. learning to be more accepting of my flaws and humanity. learning to remove "perfection" as the marker so i can let go of anguishing over every misstep. learning to express gratitude for all the good, celebrating myself at every moment, and learning to see positives in every situation.
going from a realist to an optimist is no small feat but it's for the greater good.
i ran across these 8 reminders for confidence - things that help to encourage me to be that much more brave in everything i do. thought this would be a great place to share these words. i pray these affirmations encourage you just as they did me :) - xoxo, Jana-Lynn
Eight Traits of a Confident Woman.
1. She’s had enough.
When you’ve had enough of living for someone else, pleasing others, craving others’ approval or of those who bind your life with theirs; when you’ve had enough of the fear of confronting someone or are ready to stand up for yourself, you’re walking in your God-given confidence. When you are ready to step out of these types of situations and follow God fully, you are a confident woman.
2. She doesn't concentrate on her weaknesses but instead she develops and maximizes her strengths. She discovers her strengths and asks God to help her.
3. She believes in her values.
She can confidently say about herself the same things that God says about her. She sees herself as God sees her no matter what anyone has ever said to her or about her. She is grounded in her identity in Christ.
4. She allows God to work through her flaws.
We all have flaws. Not one of us is perfect. She loves herself in a balanced and healthy way and never despises or rejects herself.
5. She takes care of herself.
This means to take care of yourself first and foremost before taking care of others. This is not selfish. What does the airline hostess say about the oxygen mask? “In the event of an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first then assist someone else.”
6. She knows her strengths.
Take inventory of yourself and think about what you are good at, perhaps something you have not noticed. Make a list of what you are good at. Whatever you are good at is the area God has gifted you. This is what you must serve to the world.
7. She gets out of the boat and doesn't sink.
A confident woman gets out of her past and all that’s associated with it. She doesn’t murmur and complain about missing out on life because of her past. She doesn’t hide her past and she knows she will never be free if she keeps running away from her past. She is no longer stuck in her past and her past is no longer stuck in her.
8. She never stops trying.
A confident woman recovers from setbacks. She is in charge of her destiny and keeps trying different things until she discovers what she is here on this earth to do. She will experience some set-backs, some disappointments but she never stops trying until she discovers her place. This place will feel right to her.